Funeral For A friend

My ex-wife’s aunt just passed, and they’re planning her funeral for next Tuesday. It’s likely that the family doesn’t realize it, but I had a lot of love and respect for that lady. She was an example of a responsible yet really cool adult at a time when I needed it most. In fact, if it hadn’t been for her willingness to accept us for the young adults we were, I doubt that her niece and I would have ever gotten close enough to have a relationship at all, let alone to begin a marriage that lasted for almost thirty-five years.

If you’ve read my Love, Loss, Anger and Faith article, you can perhaps understand how my memories of those days can still have such an impact on my emotions. Hopefully, if you add in the knowledge that my ex’s aunt also had a lover with extreme attachment issues, that article can also help you to understand why the song I’ve chosen to memorialize the occasion is indeed appropriate. After all, memorials are for the living.

Elton John – Funeral For A friend / Love Lies Bleeding

The roses in the window box have tilted to one side
Everything about this house was born to grow and die

Oh it doesn’t seem a year ago to this very day
You said I’m sorry honey, if I don’t change the pace
I can’t face another day

And love lies bleeding in my hand
Oh it kills me to think of you with another man
I was playing rock and roll and you were just a fan
But my guitar couldn’t hold you so I split the band

Love lies bleeding in my hands!

I wonder if those changes have left a scar on you
Like all the burning hoops of fire that you and I passed through

You’re a bluebird on a telegraph line, I hope you’re happy now
Well if the wind of change comes down your way girl
You’ll make it back somehow

And love lies bleeding in my hand
Oh it kills me to think of you with another man
I was playing rock and roll and you were just a fan
But my guitar couldn’t hold you so I split the band

Love lies bleeding in my hands!

Call me nuts, and I’m sure you will, but that’s what I want playing at my funeral. That is, if there’s anyone around to play it.

I want ice water.

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8 thoughts on “Funeral For A friend

  1. I’ve been trying to think up something to say here for you but well there is never anything ‘right’ to say when someone whom has touched our lives so much leaves. :/

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  2. Sorry to hear about your loss. Grief doesn’t depend on how close or far you are from the family. She was important to you at a time in which you needed it, and that’s what’s important.

    As for the song, it’s perfect. I have always loved this one.

    Take care.

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    • Thanks my friend. She really was a cool person. As for the song, it’s always been one of my very favorites. I know I said that memorials are for the living, but my family has always hated my musical tastes and I don’t really expect them to honor my request to play it at my funeral. Oh well… 😕

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  3. BTW, I have no idea how I ended up on this particular post, and I didn’t notice the date until after I had replied. Think I must be in some kind of timey wimey vortex.

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    • Apparently you aren’t the only one that “timey wimey vortex” thing. It’s actually been viewed by enough people today to make it onto the “Reigning Rants” list in my sidebar! Could that be where you saw the link? 😀

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